If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything.

UPDATE: December 19, 2024 - 1:42 PM EST

  To those awaiting "the signal," please be advised that it’s not coming at this time, as developments have taken an unexpected turn in a direction that benefits me. Stay tuned for updates, and enjoy the holiday season. There’s a chance this may resurface later.

UPDATE: December 18, 2024 - 4:20 PM EST

 This is why it’s important to never burn bridges and to live a life of integrity—no matter how many beers you drink. I’m done waiting for the companies and individuals to step up and take responsibility for this. If they won’t volunteer, I will apply some pressure to ensure they do. Thank you, President Biden.

UPDATE: December 18, 2024 - 5:09 AM EST

 It's frustrating to see a company with so much potential mismanage things so badly. They have the resources, the model (mostly), and many of the right people in place, yet they're failing.  Clearly, something's not working, or they wouldn't be downsizing and potentially selling off the company.  I'm confident I could turn things around within 18 months if given the opportunity. I have a comprehensive plan, but the current leadership wasn't interested in hearing it. Apollo might be, but I don't know if I will ever get the chance to sell them on it. 

UPDATE: December 16, 2024 - 4:28 PM EST

When strong accusations are made and the accused respond by stonewalling or ignoring the issue, it often signals an attempt to avoid accountability rather than asserting innocence. Silence in the face of serious allegations can be seen as an unwillingness to engage with the matter directly, raising suspicions and calling into question the credibility of the accused. In many instances, this silence can be more telling than any defense, as it suggests an effort to conceal the truth rather than confront it head-on - This is for you Invited, Concert, Apollo, Hyatt, Hilton, Gecko, Paris Leadership, among others, and the hundreds of individuals complicit in this matter.

During my current legal battles, I have seen this dynamic play out firsthand. Only one entity has stepped up to address the claims made against them, while over 100 others have either remained silent at the demand of their company or on their own volition. Whether by directive or choice, their refusal to respond speaks volumes. The absence of response, or what could be seen as willful ignorance, is deafening and deeply revealing. It underscores a general rule of thumb: when those accused remain quiet, it often raises more questions than it answers.

What’s more telling is that I have proof of what they are hiding, and I believe they know it - I certainly have told them and it's all right here to read. Their silence, in this case, is not a sign of innocence—it is a clear indication that they are aware of the facts, and their refusal to engage is an attempt to shield themselves from the consequences of their actions. In a situation where transparency and accountability are expected, withholding comment only reinforces the suspicion that there is something to hide.

It is never too late for accountability... the truth will always prevail.

UPDATE: December 15, 2024 - 7:13 PM EST (Eagles are winning... sorry Pittsburgh!)

This will likely be one of my last updates. Thank you to those who are here for the right reasons.

Statement Regarding False Accusations and Unethical Conduct at The Hamlet

This statement addresses false accusations against me and exposes unethical and potentially criminal actions by individuals at The Hamlet.  It has been reviewed and approved by my legal counsel.

Let me be clear: I categorically deny the allegation that I blackmailed a member. This will be proven in court with irrefutable evidence.

This situation stems from a member engaging in egregious behavior, including racist and hateful language directed at my staff. Multiple witnesses provided detailed accounts of this member's unacceptable conduct. Despite the severity of his actions, and my initial decision to terminate his membership, the company, influenced by a former colleague, ultimately allowed him to remain a member.

This colleague, motivated by personal gain during a period of organizational turmoil, orchestrated a smear campaign against me. This included coercing false police reports, planting drugs in my desk, exploiting the presence of my legally owned firearm (for which I have faced appropriate legal consequences, a matter addressed elsewhere), and rifling through my personal belongings. This individual even unearthed a letter I had written in a moment of frustration, expressing my anger at the company's decision to reinstate the abusive member. This letter, never intended to be seen by anyone, has been misconstrued as evidence of blackmail.

Furthermore, confidential information about this matter was leaked to former employees in violation of company policy.

It is crucial to understand that the member in question admitted to verbally abusing staff in front of numerous witnesses. His actions blatantly violated the club's zero-tolerance policy on hate speech and harassment. Despite this, the company chose to prioritize his membership over the well-being and safety of its employees.

I have reported all of this to the company in writing, but my concerns have been ignored. Instead, they have promoted individuals involved in this misconduct and retained the offending member.  This demonstrates a complete disregard for ethics and integrity.

Moreover, I have evidence of forgery committed by the individual who searched my desk. This is a criminal act, and I will pursue legal action.

I am sharing this information publicly because my integrity is non-negotiable. The company has had countless opportunities to address these issues but has chosen to remain silent.  This statement serves to set the record straight and expose the truth.

To my friends and colleagues in the industry: I understand your silence. This is a difficult situation, and I don't blame anyone for believing what they've heard and protecting your family. I like my drink and my weed and my cards... that doesn't make me who I am. When this is over, I hope to reconnect and rebuild those relationships.

The truth will prevail.

UPDATE: December 9, 2024 - 8:49 PM EST 

A Message to Those Involved

I want to start by expressing my sincere gratitude to everyone who has supported me during this incredibly challenging time. Your belief in me and my integrity means the world, especially from those outside the hospitality industry who have known me the longest.  I also want to thank the legal and HR professionals who have guided me and those who alerted me to the hate crime aspects of this situation.

For those who may be feeling apprehensive or uncertain about what to do, I understand. This situation is complex and has far-reaching implications.  But I want to assure you that addressing this head-on, while perhaps difficult, can ultimately bring a sense of relief and closure.

Here's what I know for certain:

- I was targeted for years because of my race.  Mamee Groves discriminated against me, and the company allowed it to continue. She used lies, fraud, misinformation, and even false police reports to damage my reputation and career.

- This isn't just about me. Invited and other companies have shown a reckless disregard for human rights and basic fairness. They protected the offender while enabling a hostile work environment.

- This is far from over. What we've seen so far is only the tip of the iceberg. This situation will escalate, and more truths will be revealed.

- I'm committed to justice.  I have spent 16 months gathering irrefutable evidence. Multiple companies and over 90 individuals will be held accountable for their actions, including hate crimes and associated offenses - criminal and civil.

- It's not too late to do the right thing.  If you have information or were involved in any way, I urge you to come forward. You can contact me directly at jason@invitedtolie.com, the New York Attorney General's Office c/o Leticia James at  
civil.rights@ag.ny.gov , or Senator Mario Mattera at mattera@nysenate.com.

This is the first of 5 AG's Offices in 5 states who have been contacted, starting with the latest offense.

I understand this is a difficult decision, but now is the time to protect yourselves. The companies involved will not hesitate to prioritize their own interests. I have five years remaining on the statute of limitations, and I will not stop until justice is served.

This is not a threat; it's a promise. I'm committed to holding everyone accountable and ensuring that this never happens to anyone again - at least at the hands of Mamee Groves and Invited, including dozens of individuals complicit with the situation and directly involved in the cover-up and obstruction.

UPDATE: November 20, 2024 - 8:51 PM EST

Confirmation of Blacklist/DNC List  

The existence of a blacklist or DNC list targeting me has now been confirmed, and I have written proof in my possession. This is an opportunity to treat the situation as a learning moment and to prevent unnecessary escalation.

I anticipate hearing from a few of you within the next 24 hours. Consider this an olive branch and a chance to address the matter constructively. I strongly urge everyone named on this site to come together and resolve the issue promptly. I have confirmed two corporate sources regarding the blacklist’s origin and have been informed that additional sources are likely forthcoming as its dissemination and use are exposed. If the companies involved fail to come forward, I will have no choice but to pursue the individuals who distributed these messages on behalf of those companies.

To date, I have withheld the most critical evidence and refrained from involving the media further. However, with this confirmation, the matter is prepared to return to court, and I will not settle after so much damage and pain.

It is deeply unfortunate that it required the creation and publication of this site to prompt any acknowledgment. Let’s not allow this situation to escalate further.

**UPDATE: November 19, 2024 - 6:15 PM EST**

An Open Letter and Update on Accountability

As I, alongside investigative reporters, have reached out to everyone named on this website—either directly or through their companies—with no response as of this update, it’s clear the time for waiting has passed. With a growing sense that cease-and-desist orders are on their way, I’ve expedited the release of the remainder of this site and its parent site to be released shortly.

For the Readers:  

Please know that I have made multiple attempts since July 3, 2023 to reach the executives and decision-makers at these companies, as recently as the morning of November 19, 2024. Investigative reporters are actively reaching out as well. If these calls and messages had been answered in good faith, this would not have been necessary. 

I will not violate any court orders, but I will share the result of 16 months of investigative work. This effort is driven by the fact that these organizations failed to heed countless warnings, avoided all calls, continued to threaten, and refused to take accountability.

To Invited Leadership:  

All you had to do was listen to me. I begged, even through my lawyer. You chose silence and arrogance over action and integrity. I asked you not to underestimate me. Sometimes I AM the smartest guy in the room.

To My Former Trusted Colleagues:  

This battle isn’t just for me; it’s for you, too. Many of you know exactly what happened, yet none of you had the courage to speak up. I understand the fear, but silence enables the wrongdoers.

To Maurice Darbyshire:  

You took full responsibility for this situation. Yet, while I’ve struggled to survive, you’ve maintained your position and status. Shame on you. 

To Bob Morse:

Your leadership—or, more accurately, the lack thereof—has contributed to the loss of tens of thousands of jobs for hardworking individuals across industries, all while you profited. You oversee Maurice. That speaks volumes. 

To Mamee Groves:  You’re not even worth this sentence, but here it is: You used the color of your skin to advance, weaponized fraud and hatred against me, and failed at the fundamental responsibilities of your role. Why? I never wronged you, nor did the dozens of others you targeted. Whatever happens to you from here on out, know this—you had every opportunity to stop this, and you chose not to. You came after the wrong person, and now the world will want to know: Why? What’s the next lie you’ll spin? I am sure Invited already helped you formulate an answer after assuring you of your soft landing at Hilton.

To Joe Vivona:

You know what you did. There's time to own it with Maurice, but not much.

To Everyone Else Involved:

 You may not be on the front page yet, but your time is coming. 

To Victims Everywhere:  

To those of all races, creeds, religions, and backgrounds who have suffered from anything like this—this fight is for you, too. Change is overdue, and I hope this effort brings the awareness and accountability we need to build something better.

For Myself and My Family:

Whether I survive this fight—physically, professionally, or otherwise—I know I have done everything I could to stand up for myself and protect my family. Without those two pillars, nothing else matters. 

To Those Who Lose Their Jobs Over This:  

For those affected by this fallout, especially those I once trusted to lead operations: Call me when the dust settles. I will need an explanation for your silence, but I also understand the fear you faced. If your reasons are honest and compelling, I will give you a second chance and bring you on board wherever I land.

This is about accountability, integrity, and doing what’s right. Whether others choose to join me or not, I know that I have stood for something that matters.  

Please know that I have made multiple attempts to reach the executives and decision-makers at these companies, as recently as the morning of November 19, 2024. Investigative reporters are actively reaching out as well. If these calls and messages had been answered in good faith, this would not have been necessary. 

This is about accountability, integrity, and doing what’s right. Whether others choose to join me or not, I know that I have stood for something that matters.

 Mr. David Pillsbury – There’s nothing wrong with owning a mistake. In business, no wound is ever too deep if apologies are sincere, restitution is made, and those responsible are held appropriately accountable. This is your opportunity to take that step... you're invited to use my personal number: 610-938-4595. Feel free to leave a message, but let me be clear—I’m not pausing the rollout of this site while I wait for your call. However, taking this opportunity could turn things in a positive direction and save many careers—yours and plenty of others - those that you are ultimately responsible for. The ball is in your court. 

November 17, 2024

Welcome to InvitedToLie.com

This website is not here to grind an axe. While my story is part of what brought this platform to life, InvitedToLie.com is about something larger: changing a culture that affects employees, companies, and the very idea of equity. Through media coverage, my own case is being addressed. Now, my goal is to provide a place where these issues—corporate policies, misused DEI practices, and their real impacts—can be examined openly and honestly.

Here, I’ll share insights and invite others to add their perspectives. I hope that individuals who have been part of my story, directly or indirectly, will consider reaching out to share their views. There’s room here for constructive critique and discussion. This site is about dialogue, transparency, and learning, not simply telling one side. I encourage anyone involved to join in and share their experiences.

What You’ll Find Here

- An Open Dialogue: Real stories and firsthand experiences, along with honest discussions around corporate culture and DEI. This is a space for those who are ready to dive into complex topics and aren’t afraid of direct language.

- A Platform for Change: While my own experiences serve as the foundation, the mission is broader. We’ll explore the larger issues and examine potential solutions that can guide meaningful improvement in workplaces.

- Respectful, Candid Conversations: I’ll speak from the heart, joke around when it fits, and share my thoughts openly. If you contact me, you’ll get a respectful reply and direct answers. While we’ll stay on course, expect detours as we address different layers of the issues.

Thank you for visiting. Together, let’s foster a dialogue that aims to build transparency, fairness, and a stronger path forward for all.